gangsties

kelpforestdwellers:

respectissexy:
It feels taboo as a childfree person to admit this but I actually do have concerns about who is going to take care of me when I’m old. The elder care system in our nation relies A LOT on the unpaid care labor of adult children. I just don’t think that’s a good reason to have kids.
“But you’ll have more money!” does not completely put this to rest for me. Neither does “Buy care insurance!” Even if I can afford direct personal care, who is going to advocate for me to get it? Who is going to navigate bureaucracy for me when I’m 80?
“If you do have kids, there’s no GUARANTEE that they’ll take care of you when your old!” That’s true, but doesn’t solve my problem.
I think childfree people get very defensive about this question because its used as a kind of “gotcha!” against us, but I actually do not feel we can afford to be in denial about this reality. Based on current trends of more people in their 30s stating they intend to be permanently childfree, we are going to see a huge wave of childfree adults hitting the eldercare system at once in a few decades. Childfree people in their 30s should be advocating around eldercare NOW.
as well as disability justice, since this affects people of every age who are disabled if they don’t happen to have family who can do things for them

pupyjpeg:

zvaigzdelasas:
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fangirltothefullest:

headspace-hotel:
headspace-hotel:
also “ough life-saving essential medical equipment uses so much plastic” in this country you can purchase an artificial ballsack for your pickup truck
“ough watching a show uses so much electricity” on road sides there are giant electrified billboards that do nothing but show you ads
Exactly! Stop asking me what MY carbon footprint is when Hershey used 5,829 million litres of water in 2021, Disneyland uses over a billion kWhs per year, Keystone spilled 2,226,000 litres of oil in 2022, Bob Iger’s old house had 7 fucking bathrooms and I guarantee he doesn’t recycle or use energy efficient lightbulbs in his fuckin million dollar jet.

dysphoric-culture-is:

hazelbeewitched:
fatmasc:
local-transan:
fatmasc:
If ur like me and driving urself crazy trying to find a top surgeon but ur fat then look at transbmi. Its a short list of surgeons with high or no BMI limit (some surgeons are listed as having an unknown limit - be extra wary of them as they dont guarantee a high limit)
I had a friend go thru KU Med, and he said they don’t have a BMI requirement for top surgery. However, they do have a (flexible) one for bottom surgery, mostly because having hanging stomach fat on a brand new penis will not be good for said brand new penis. So, despite what their website says, BMI is not a factor for top surgery.
I’ve had 2 friends go thru KU Med for top surgery, one thru Dr. Ponuru, and one thru Dr. Farmer. Both are fat, both are gnc but binary trans men, both had good results. From everything I’ve heard, the surgeons are very open/welcoming to nonbinary people as well.
I cannot stress enough: if you know of a surgeon who you think should be on this list PLEASE contact Elijah Castle, the trans man who runs transbmi. He has a google form linked at the bottom of the page for submissions. I do not run transbmi so i cant add the reccomendations i keep seeing in the notes!
This site is no longer being maintained.
The site now redirects to this list, maintained by the FEDUP Collective.
Text link:
https://fedupcollective.org/gender-affirming-surgeon-guide
Gender Affirming Surgeon Guide
FEDUP
Some of the doctors on the list also do bottom surgeries! Check them out!

violetsandshrikes:

violetsandshrikes:
violetsandshrikes:
watching people on tiktok consume borax is uh. something.
having to say “don’t eat borax” was not on my 2023 bingo
@the-puffinry
Can’t believe in the year 2023 we have to say: do not consume borax. It will not provide a “parasite cleanse”, it does not combat the “evil fluoride” in your water, and it is not a super mineral. It will damage your organs. Also, it’s not rated for human consumption so frankly, who knows what it’s cross-contaminated with (my personal bet would be arsenic).

teaboot:

teaboot:
teaboot:
Please don’t ask me for relationship advice unless you are prepared to receive some truly upsetting information because some people are ready for the “He’s exhibiting the literal textbook signs of a psychological abuser and you need to get away from him before he successfully cuts you off from your support network” talk and some people aren’t
FOR WHOEVER NEEDS A REMINDER:
There is never any justification for someone putting their hands on you in any way without your consent short of immediate risk of harm or death.
If someone tells you that “the way I’m acting is your fault because you know that doing X thing would make me do it and you chose to do it anyway” is just fancy bullshit talk for, “I know my behaviour is wrong, but I don’t want to be held responsible for it so I’m pushing it on you”
Nothing good ever, ever comes from someone who tells you, “I don’t want you talking about our relationship with anyone”. This person cannot handle accepting responsibility and processing criticism so they need you to never, ever question them. That’s easier if they control the narrative and your friends aren’t there to cut in.
Nothing constructive comes from screaming.
“It’s not like that all the time” is optimistic and sweet, but the truth is, it shouldn’t be like that at all. Sweet words and gifts and gestures don’t erase being frightened for yourself or for your loved ones. That is not normal. Don’t minimize it.
It is not healthy or normal to be genuinely afraid of saying “no” to someone, for any reason at all. Violence, outbursts, retaliation, anything. You should not have to be afraid of someone’s reaction to your boundaries.
You are not responsible for saving anyone. Even if you love them. Even if they have nobody else. At the end of the day, if they want to hurt themselves in any way, they will, and you can’t stop them forever. People need to want to improve before they can actually improve, and if they’re threatening to harm themselves to keep you around, they’re using your love to hold themselves hostage. You do not decide their choices for them, and they don’t get to shunt that off on you.
There will always be other people who can love you better. You will not be alone forever. This will not be the last time you care for someone like this and it will not be the last time someone cares for you
This applies to ALL relationships btw

inkskinned:

she asked me if i believed in god and i told her that when i was four i almost drowned in a public pool and in my panic mistook a stranger for my father. i clawed my way up his leg. four years later he’d send my parents a picture of the scars alongside a tin of cookies. he said, “i hope she’s still okay. i carry her with me. it isn’t every day you save a life. it isn’t every day you feel like you were here for a reason. when it does happen, you have to cherish that memory. for once, i had a purpose. just being there was enough. she tore me open but she taught me a lot about love.”

chibisketches:

sharpasanaro:
sandersstudies:
sandersstudies:
I sat with a crying second grader today. (The age range is outside my wheelhouse but I was the most convenient adult.) He was crying, the other adults said, because his brother took a phone he was playing on. “Phone addicted,” everybody said. “If he would get up and play games with the other kids he wouldn’t be crying.”
He told me everyone lets his brother take things from him because his brother is younger, and doesn’t know better. He told me he doesn’t want to play because he’s tired, he has too many extracurriculars this summer and can’t get good sleep because “everyone in my camper is so loud when I’m trying to sleep.” He’s exhausted and only eight. His mom’s an acquaintance and told me she and the kid’s father are going through a separation — mom and four kids left the house to stay in a camper.
But people will seriously not listen to kids crying over seemingly minor things because on the surface it looks like a tantrum. If kids are given the space to articulate themselves they often will.
I’ve found that if a child is capable of having a conversation (that is, old enough to speak and express themselves, not injured or upset so badly that they literally cannot stop crying, and not behaving violently), then 90% of the time their reason for being upset is legitimate, or at least understandable.
Please remember that this also applies to teenagers and preteens, they might be acting like a knowitall who doesn’t give a shit, or a first class jerk, but chances are fair they feel like shit for one reason or another and adults just chalk it up to teenage angst instead
I was deeply depressed and suicidal as a young teenager, (13ish). I couldn’t really articulate what was wrong, so after many months of struggling, what I told my mom was: “I think I need help. I want to talk to a therapist.”
She chalked it up to regular ol teenage angst and said something along the lines of therapy being really expensive and that teenagers just go through stuff and grow out of it, so maybe we could talk about it later if I felt like I really needed to. What I felt then was completely dismissed - and since saying something at all had been so hard - I didn’t bring it up again. I spiraled. The only reason I’m still here is because I’m a stubborn little fucker and decided when I was down to the choice of “leave” or “stay” that I would not let the bullies (and as I later realized - my own brain chemistry) take me down.
When I told my mom about all of this years after the fact, when I’d gotten a leash on the depression and wasn’t in that bad place anymore, she cried. She had genuinely thought it was just normal moody teenager bs and that I was being dramatic. She had no idea how bad it was, because I didn’t feel like I could talk to her about it. Because she dismissed my very real problem as “ just teen angst”.
How different might the last few decades have gone for me if I’d figured out my depression with real guidance then? How much sooner might I have gotten the support I so badly needed if that first ask for help had been taken seriously?
If a kid (toddler through teen) is asking you for help, listen to them. It might be the only warning you get that something is wrong.

animentality:

the-diabolic-acid:

the way these strikes get framed is always so funny to me
“the strike could stretch on until the end of summer” or the execs could pay their workers
“there won’t be ANY new shows because of this strike” or the execs could pay their workers
“no more content for us because the mean old writers and actors are-” OR THE EXECS COULD PAY THEIR WORKERS